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"Marre's Relationship Counseling " is a popular cell phone site, on which the charismatic counselor, Marre, answers your questions about your marriage and love affairs directly.
If you are having trouble, you can easily get counseling with your cell phone!
This time, we are featuring a question from Sakura.

 

Sakura

I'm 28 years old.  I have a boyfriend who is 2 years older than me.  We've been dating for 3 years.  It has been about a year since we started talking about our marriage.  However, he doesn't have a strong desire to get married, but after much talk, he finally met my parents in April this year.  At that time we talked about scheduling our wedding for November and decided on the wedding place, the date, and the day when we would officially visit our parents.  However, nothing has been accomplished since then, supposedly because of his work.  We postponed our wedding date, but he still hasn't decided our new wedding date.  I feel tired of making all the effort by myself.  When I say, "If you don't want to get married, we don't have to", he answers, "it's not that I don't want to."  These days we argue about this topic, and he becomes silent.  I can't understand his emotions.

Marre (Marehisa Ishii)
The owner of Kick Back Cafe and a pre-marital counselor. He conducts his counseling at the cafe and also through the internet.
He has authored many books, such as Is This the Right Person for Me to Marry? (Are you ready for marriage?) (Shincho-sha Publications) and 7 Ways of Becoming Happy with Your Loved One (Kobunsha-Chie-no-mori-bunko Publications).


: to Sakura
There are many men like him.  He doesn't mind getting married to you, but he's not ready for it yet.  A man's heart is shown by his actions.  Did you read my new book?  The actions or behavior of a man show his true feelings. 

There is definitely a difference in the emotional temperature between you and him.  It shows by the fact that he is not thinking of a concrete plan for the wedding.  I don't know the reason why he is not thinking about it.  However, in many cases, men have a fear of the heavy responsibility that comes with marriage.  Also, some don't have the courage to change their single lifestyle.  They know they would lose freedom and wouldn't be able to do whatever they wanted.  So, they are not ready to face it.

In conclusion, it wouldn't be a good idea for you to force him to think about marriage by persuasion.  It may be better to quit thinking about marrying him.  You'd better set some kind of deadline in your mind.  You decide by yourself how long you can wait for him.  If you wait for that period, and he still doesn't take any action, you'd better end your relationship with him.  The worst case in a situation like this is just to keep waiting for a long time until his mind is ready for it.  Waiting for an indefinite period is very hard on a person, mentally.  What you should do right now is calm yourself and listen to his reasons why he can't take any action toward marriage, and you tell him that you have a time limit for the wedding in your mind.  Then, if the deadline passes without any meaningful action, you should say good-bye to him by taking action, without dragging on and on.

Of course, if waiting for him indefinitely is really what you want to do, then you can go ahead and keep waiting as long as you want.



 

We want our customers to always be able to enjoy our healthy menu!   It's because KBC's chef prepares meals sincerely every day with the motto "sticking to fresh materials and something good for our bodies".  Also, our barista and exclusive pastry chef are proudly preparing drinks and cakes, while keeping the same motto in their hearts.  Now, we'd like to introduce a new herb tea drink and a lady's plate which are good for ladies' health and appearance.

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Whitening with herb tea?!  This herb tea contains plenty of ingredients that are good for whitening, such as albutin and vitamin C.  The rose aroma stays on your breath, which puts you in an elegant mood for the afternoon.  After you finish our Whitening Blend Tea, the rich feeling continues.  Please try it as a reward to yourself for your hard work.

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On one plate, you can taste various types of rice, containing abundant vitamins and minerals; a special "kanpanyu" bread, made of Japanese wheat with natural yeast; seasonal vegetables; and various beans, containing a lot of isoflavin.  It can be a countermeasure for ladies who have PMS problems.  The healthy and tasty new menu for ladies has finally arrived.



Serialization in “Cafe´ & Restaurant” magazine

Have you read KBC owner Marre's article, "Intersection Shop of the Heart" that is written regularly in the professional magazine, "Cafe & Restaurant"?

His article started serially since June this year, and he writes every month about relationships that are unique to Kick Back Cafe.
Serialized articles so far have been "Welcome to Kick Back Cafe after Closing", "Kick Back Cafe is a Cafe for Meeting People", "Kick Back Cafe is a Metamorphosis Cafe"... What is happening in Kick Back Cafe!? What's this all about?

If you want to know, please check "Cafe & Restaurant", in bookstores.

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CONTENTS
Top Page / Catch up! Kick Back-ing It

CREATIVE CAFE

A Special Second Year / Your Original Wedding

Marre's Counseling on Relationships / Healthy Menu / News

[Comic] Rejuvenated at Kick Back Cafe

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