"Marre's Relationship Counseling " is a popular cell phone site, on which
the charismatic counselor, Marre, answers your questions about your
marriage and love affairs directly.
If you are having trouble,
you can easily get counseling with your cell phone!
This time, we
are featuring a question from Sakura.
I'm 28 years old. I have a boyfriend who is 2 years
older than me. We've been dating for 3 years. It
has been about a year since we started talking about our
marriage. However, he doesn't have a strong desire to
get married, but after much talk, he finally met my parents in
April this year. At that time we talked about scheduling
our wedding for November and decided on the wedding place, the
date, and the day when we would officially visit our
parents. However, nothing has been accomplished since
then, supposedly because of his work. We postponed our
wedding date, but he still hasn't decided our new wedding
date. I feel tired of making all the effort by
myself. When I say, "If you don't want to get married,
we don't have to", he answers, "it's not that I don't want
to." These days we argue about this topic, and he
becomes silent. I can't understand his
Marre (Marehisa Ishii)
The owner of Kick
Back Cafe and a pre-marital counselor. He conducts his
counseling at the cafe and also through the internet.
has authored many books, such as Is This the Right Person for
Me to Marry? (Are you ready for marriage?) (Shincho-sha
Publications) and 7 Ways of Becoming Happy with Your Loved One (Kobunsha-Chie-no-mori-bunko Publications).
There are many men like him. He doesn't mind
getting married to you, but he's not ready for it yet. A man's
heart is shown by his actions. Did you read my new book?
The actions or behavior of a man show his true feelings.
There is definitely a difference in the emotional temperature
between you and him. It shows by the fact that he is not
thinking of a concrete plan for the wedding. I don't know the
reason why he is not thinking about it. However, in many
cases, men have a fear of the heavy responsibility that comes with
marriage. Also, some don't have the courage to change their
single lifestyle. They know they would lose freedom and
wouldn't be able to do whatever they wanted. So, they are not
ready to face it.
In conclusion, it wouldn't be a good idea for you to force him to
think about marriage by persuasion. It may be better to quit
thinking about marrying him. You'd better set some kind of
deadline in your mind. You decide by yourself how long you can
wait for him. If you wait for that period, and he still
doesn't take any action, you'd better end your relationship with
him. The worst case in a situation like this is just to keep
waiting for a long time until his mind is ready for it.
Waiting for an indefinite period is very hard on a person,
mentally. What you should do right now is calm yourself and
listen to his reasons why he can't take any action toward marriage,
and you tell him that you have a time limit for the wedding in your
mind. Then, if the deadline passes without any meaningful
action, you should say good-bye to him by taking action, without
dragging on and on.Of course, if waiting for him indefinitely is
really what you want to do, then you can go ahead and keep waiting
as long as you want.
We want our customers to always be able to enjoy our
healthy menu! It's because KBC's chef prepares
meals sincerely every day with the motto "sticking to fresh
materials and something good for our bodies". Also, our
barista and exclusive pastry chef are proudly preparing drinks
and cakes, while keeping the same motto in their hearts.
Now, we'd like to introduce a new herb tea drink and a
lady's plate which are good for ladies' health and
Whitening with herb tea?! This herb tea contains
plenty of ingredients that are good for whitening,
such as albutin and vitamin C. The rose aroma
stays on your breath, which puts you in an elegant mood
for the afternoon. After you finish our Whitening
Blend Tea, the rich feeling continues. Please try
it as a reward to yourself for your hard work.
On one plate, you can taste various types of rice,
containing abundant vitamins and minerals; a special
"kanpanyu" bread, made of Japanese wheat with natural
yeast; seasonal vegetables; and various beans,
containing a lot of isoflavin. It can be a
countermeasure for ladies who have PMS problems.
The healthy and tasty new menu for ladies has finally
Serialization in “Cafe´ & Restaurant”
Have you read KBC owner Marre's article, "Intersection Shop of
the Heart" that is written regularly in the professional magazine,
"Cafe & Restaurant"?
His article started serially since June this year, and he writes
every month about relationships that are unique to Kick Back
Serialized articles so far have been "Welcome to Kick Back
Cafe after Closing", "Kick Back Cafe is a Cafe for Meeting People",
"Kick Back Cafe is a Metamorphosis Cafe"... What is happening in
Kick Back Cafe!? What's this all about?
If you want to know, please check "Cafe &
Restaurant", in bookstores.